It's so difficult to sum marriage up! Even after spending six weeks in our Relationship Series, we've just scratched the surface. Marriage is this hard, beautiful, holy experience where two very unique individuals come together and become one. Lives mesh, and what you start with morphs into something entirely different. You change, learn, and grow together to become even more. All the while, you are still two very intentionally designed, DIFFERENT people. It can be shocking to discover just how different. How we deal with that realization makes a big impact in our relationships.
I can remember how surprised I was to find out that my husband didn't like taking naps or getting massages. He preferred to always be active and spend his off days golfing (BLECH!). He sees right and wrong so clearly, and I see a LOT of grey. Bringing all that together caused a lot of friction in the beginning of our marriage. But we learned something along the way. Those differences weren't there to divide us. They were there to make us stronger. True gifts from God for each of us. But we had to, and still have to, choose to see that. Kyle has learned the value and beauty of rest as a result of being married to me and I have gone on exciting adventures and tried new things I never would have because of him. I am so grateful for that. But I am even more grateful that we didn't allow those differences to tear us apart.
So as we close out our marriage series we want to end with that perspective. This week we are going to do what our verse says and look at our spouses and see the very best in them. Take time to note your differences and ask God how those are gifts to you. How do they make you stronger as a couple? You might even write this all down. Consider using the meditation to help in the process. Take a few minutes to listen to our song this week and remember that your differences are beautiful. But, we all come with wounds into our marriages. It's through the process of unconditional loving 'til the end that God often heals those wounds and helps us to see ourselves and each other as He does.