Last week we talked about how in marriage, although we become one, we are still two unique individuals making up that one. We took the time to really check in and make sure we were taking care of ourselves. And now this week, we are going to check in and make sure we are taking care of our spouse. This might seem like a pretty simple premise, but we are going to explore why this is sometimes not necessarily easy to do.
In the book The Five Love Languages, author Dr. Gary Chapman reminds us that one of the things that makes us each unique is the way we receive love. This teaching was profound in my marriage. I knew from the very beginning I LOVED my husband and was committed to showing him my love through my actions in our marriage. So of course, I started leaving him notes with encouraging words, telling him how awesome he was, and making sure to speak of my love to him as often as I could. I was SHOCKED to discover that not only did that not make him feel loved, it actually kind of annoyed him. As it turns out, words are not nearly as important to him as they are to me. He feels loved when I go out of my way to give him a hug, or cuddle up to him when we watch TV, or make sure his laundry is done. We receive love in completely different ways. And guess what...we are not alone in that!
Take time this week to be really intentional about examining the relationships you are in and taking a good look at the other person. What makes them feel loved? Is it a word of affirmation, an act of service, a thoughtful gift, quality time spent together, or a physical touch? There are many great online resources to help you figure this out and we highly recommend the book (keep your eyes out for a giveaway this week!). Once you do know, get out there and be creative in how you show your spouse love.
Use the verse this week as a reminder that God was deliberate in how He designed each of you to be unique beings, that together make one amazing unit. Listen to the song and think of all the ways you can show your spouse how much you like them. And please leave a comment below, or head over to our Facebook page and share your ideas of how you show love to your spouse. We want to be inspired by you!